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Why Asking for Permission to Parent Is A Wake up Call

When parents first discover the option of an exemption, it can feel like a relief: “We can still send Johnny to school without compromising our values.” But the reality is far more complicated. Exemptions aren’t simply a gesture of tolerance—they carry implications that reveal how schools view parents and families.

Parents shouldn’t have to jump through endless hurdles just to send their kids to school. Exemptions aren’t freedom—they’re permission slips that remind us who really holds the power.

Many assume the availability of an exemption reflects open-mindedness or respect for personal choice. In truth, exemptions often function as little more than a symbolic concession. Far from guaranteeing autonomy, they subtly reinforce the idea that parents must ask permission to live according to their beliefs.


Exemptions Do Not Equal Autonomy

Filing for a medical, religious, or philosophical exemption is not an affirmation of rights—it is a request. Parents must submit justification, wait for approval, and in some cases face rejection. This process flips the natural order of authority: parents, who should be primary decision-makers, are placed in the role of supplicants, while schools and state agencies act as final arbiters.


Compliance Over Individual Choice

Exemptions exist within a framework that assumes compliance is the default. To opt out is to be the “exception,” not the rule. Families who dissent are marked as outliers (often viewed and treated as pariahs). Rather than honoring parental authority, institutions prioritize their protocols and liability above the individuality, health needs, or values of children and families.


Real Cases: When Schools Override Parents

Recent court cases show what happens when parental authority collides with institutional protocol:

  • Vermont (2021–2024)
    The Politella family’s 6-year-old son was vaccinated at a school clinic against explicit parental instructions and despite the child’s resistance.
    Legal Outcome: In August 2024, the Vermont Supreme Court ruled that the PREP Act shields school officials from liability for negligence or battery in vaccination cases. Parents were left with no state-level remedy—only narrow federal options in cases of serious injury or death.

  • Maine (2021)
    A child was vaccinated without parental consent. Courts again affirmed PREP Act immunity for providers, reinforcing the same pattern.

  • North Carolina (2021–2025)
    Fourteen-year-old Tanner Smith was given the Pfizer COVID-19 vaccine at school, despite explicit refusals from both him and his mother.
    Legal Outcome: In March 2025, the North Carolina Supreme Court ruled the case could proceed, stating that PREP Act immunity does not automatically override constitutional parental rights or a minor’s bodily autonomy.

These cases highlight a sobering reality: once children are enrolled, schools often wield more authority than parents anticipate—sometimes even over fundamental health decisions.


What This Means for Families

Exemptions are not evidence that the system respects parental rights. They are reminders that institutional priorities lie in compliance, not family sovereignty. Every exemption form is a signal that parents must fit into the school’s framework—not the other way around.

For families, this means exemptions should not provide comfort or reassurance. They are, in fact, red flags that the system’s values are not aligned with yours. Assuming your deeply held beliefs will always be honored within that system is risky, and recent legal precedents confirm why.

Homeschooling isn’t just school at home—it’s freedom, connection, and learning that honors your child’s individuality.

Many parents who once relied on exemptions have since concluded that schools are not designed to protect children, but to protect institutions. This realization has led countless families to pursue homeschooling instead—building an education centered on their values and reclaiming their rightful authority.


Ready to Take Back Authority?

If you’re considering homeschooling, we’ve created a free guide to help you begin with confidence. It walks you through transitioning out of institutional schooling and reclaiming parental authority. No matter what state you live in, this guide is your first step!

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Exploring Homeschool Styles: What’s Best for Your Family?

Homeschooling has become an increasingly popular choice for families seeking a more personalized and flexible approach to learning. It has also become an increasingly important choice for families who have lost access to public school and who are leery of the curriculum and climate of public schools.

Top reasons families have given for choosing homeschooling in recent years include: Flexibility; dissatisfaction with public school curriculum and/or values and beliefs and of course lack of access for kids in states that do not accept religious or moral exemptions.

As you embark on this journey, you’ll encounter various methods of homeschooling. It can be overwhelming to decide which is the best fit. A first step would be to determine which style you’ll want to use. For many families, a “cobbled” approach with various styles works best. Often times a style that worked one year (or during the elementary years) doesn’t work the next–or doesn’t work as well for some children as others. Let’s explore the more common homeschool methods to get a sense of the various styles:

1. Traditional Homeschooling

Traditional homeschooling is modeled after the structure and regimen of public or private schools. Parents typically follow a set curriculum that includes textbooks, worksheets, and tests. This style is ideal for families who prefer a structured environment and want their children to follow a standard educational path, similar to their peers in conventional schools. On the other hand, it’s becoming less appealing to parents who have chosen to remove their children from the public school system because the structure, regimen, and curriculum are not a match for their children or household.

Pros:

  • Familiar structure for parents and children
  • Easy to track progress with clear benchmarks
  • Often easiest style for meeting state requirements with minimal adjustment
  • Religious families can find online programs that cater to their values

Cons:

  • May lack flexibility
  • Can feel restrictive or too rigid for some learners

Books: 

A Quick Guide To Start Homeschooling: From Traditional School to Homeschool Workbook

The Homeschooling Father, How and Why I got started.: Traditional Schooling to Online Learning until Homeschooling

 

2. Charlotte Mason

The Charlotte Mason method emphasizes literature, nature, and the arts, focusing on cultivating a love for learning rather than rote memorization. Named after the British educator Charlotte Mason, this style encourages short, focused lessons, nature walks, and the use of “living books” that bring subjects to life.

Pros:

  • Nurtures a child’s natural curiosity
  • Emphasizes the beauty of learning through real-world experiences
  • Encourages a love for literature and the arts
  • Though not intrinsically Christian, it’s easy to find Charlotte Mason curriculums with a Christian focus
  • Requires parents to be hands-on and creative
  • May not cover all traditional academic subjects in depth

Books: 

Home Education

In Vital Harmony: Charlotte Mason and the Natural Laws of Education

3. Montessori Homeschooling

Montessori homeschooling is based on the educational philosophy of Dr. Maria Montessori, which emphasizes child-led learning. In this approach, children have the freedom to choose their activities within a prepared environment, fostering independence, curiosity, and a love for learning. Montessori materials and hands-on learning are key components, and this is a popular early education choice.

Pros:

  • Promotes independence and self-discipline
  • Child-centered and allows for personalized pacing
  • Engages children with hands-on activities

Cons:

  • Requires specific materials and a prepared environment
  • Parents must be well-versed in Montessori principles

Books: 

The Montessori Toddler

Montessori from the Start: The Child at Home, from Birth to Age Three

4. Unschooling

Unschooling is a more radical approach where traditional education structures are largely set aside in favor of child-directed learning. This philosophy is based on the belief that children learn best when they pursue their own interests and passions. Learning is often spontaneous, with life experiences serving as the primary curriculum.

Pros:

  • Highly personalized to the child’s interests
  • Encourages creativity, critical thinking, and self-motivation
  • Flexible and adaptable to any lifestyle

Cons:

  • Lack of structure can be challenging for some families
  • May require more effort to meet state educational requirements

Books:

Sandra Dodd’s Big Book of Unschooling

The Unschooling Handbook : How to Use the Whole World As Your Child’s Classroom

5. Classical Education

Classical education is rooted in the traditions of Western culture, emphasizing the Trivium, which consists of grammar, logic, and rhetoric stages. This method focuses on teaching children how to learn and think critically, often through the study of classical texts, languages (like Latin), and Socratic dialogue.

Pros:

  • Strong foundation in critical thinking and logic
  • Emphasizes a deep understanding of subjects
  • Encourages a love for classical literature and history

Cons:

  • Can be academically rigorous and demanding
  • Requires a significant time commitment from both parents and children

The Well-Trained Mind: A Guide to Classical Education at Home

Trivium: The Classical Liberal Arts of Grammar, Logic, & Rhetoric

6. Eclectic Homeschooling

Eclectic homeschooling is a flexible, customized approach that combines elements from various homeschool methods. Parents pick and choose resources, activities, and curricula that best fit their child’s learning style and interests. This method allows for adaptability and creativity, making it a popular choice among homeschoolers.

Pros:

  • Highly adaptable to individual needs
  • Allows parents to tailor education to their child’s strengths
  • Can incorporate the best aspects of multiple homeschooling methods

Cons:

  • Requires time and effort to curate materials
  • Lack of a clear structure may be challenging for some families

Books:

Do It Yourself Homeschool Journal: & Eclectic Learning Handbook

Kitty Doodle’s Homeschooling Curriculum: For Artistic and Playful Students

7. Waldorf Education

Waldorf homeschooling is inspired by the teachings of Rudolf Steiner and emphasizes holistic, artistic, and imaginative learning. This method integrates academic subjects with creative arts, storytelling, and handcrafts, aiming to develop the whole child—intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually. This is a popular early-education choice, but also tends to pair with a Waldorf-based lifestyle.

Pros:

  • Fosters creativity and imagination
  • Emphasizes the development of the whole child
  • Integrates arts and academics seamlessly

Cons:

  • Requires parents to be highly involved and creative
  • May be less focused on conventional academic achievements
  • Requires parents to be ares of Rudolf Steiner’s theories

Books:

Rhythm & Waldorf Homeschool Planning

Waldorf Alphabet Book

 

8. Unit Studies

Unit studies focus on a specific topic or theme, integrating various subjects like math, science, history, and language arts around that central theme. This approach is often hands-on and project-based, making it an engaging way to learn through real-world connections.

Pros:

  • Makes learning relevant and connected
  • Encourages in-depth exploration of topics
  • Engages multiple learning styles

Cons:

  • May require more planning and preparation
  • Can be challenging to cover all subjects equally

Choosing the Right Homeschool Style for Your Family

Selecting a homeschool style is a deeply personal decision that depends on your family’s values, educational goals, and the unique needs of your children. Some families find that a blend of several methods works best, allowing them to create a customized educational experience. Some families find that it is best to switch their focus year-to-year or at major shift years such as middle or high school. Remember, homeschooling is a journey, and it’s okay to adjust your approach as you learn more about what works for your family.

Tips for Those Transitioning from Public School

If you’re looking for support in making the shift from public school to homeschool, our class Between A Rock and A Hard Place offers support and tips for families and reviews some helpful options. It is recommended that before launching into homeschooling that parents spend a decent amount of time deschooling. Cilla did a series on Homeopathic Homeschooling where she shared various other tips for homeschoolers that you may want to check out as well:

Creative Curriculums

Unschooling

Sick days

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In the end, the most important thing is to foster a love of learning and create an environment where your children can thrive. Whether you choose a structured approach or a more flexible one, homeschooling offers the opportunity to tailor education to your child’s individual needs, making it a rewarding experience for the entire family.

 

Ready to get started homeschooling and want a guide?
Download our Getting Started with Homeschooling–Free Guide

 

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